Do you believe in whatever happens, happens for a reason? Do you think this is enough explanation of anything happening to us, good or bad? Do you think we should just accept this and there’s nothing much you can do about it?  Read on…

We are all connected in this life through fate and destiny. The theory of chaos tells us that we are all connected in someway or the other. Our actions affect the rest of the world in a way that we might not understand.

The concept is much bigger than us. Life will take us very far before it brings us very close. Destiny brings us surprises everyday. It makes us meet new people and experience things we never thought we could ever experience.

If you end up anytime in a place and then start to wonder how you got there, well the answer to that question is ‘Destiny.’

Destiny does not let you choose how your life goes, since your birth until your death, you almost choose nothing. You don’t choose if you are short or tall, black or white, intelligent or not. Destiny shapes our lives.

Destiny is mean too. It makes us meet only those people who are ought to be in our lives with some reason, some cause, some intention. And it lets only those people stay with us that are meant to be in our lives.

Destiny is unfair too, just like life is, that is a stone hard truth and fact of life. Sometimes we are put through situations that brings out the best and worst of us but sometimes these situations are too hard for us to handle.

For example:

You know the nasty breakup you endured? Well, you can choose to lovingly name the experience as ‘The breakup that led to the breakdown that led to the breakthrough!’ But we don’t. We shut down and shut off.

Of course, when things are going badly, there’s always a tempting urge to shut down and shut off, to give in and give up, to get bitter, resentful, angry, depressed, self destructive and antisocial.

But what may have at first seemed deflating, frustrating or painful can be experienced with deeply looking into yourself, your conscious insight that will always empower strength for growth.

You know the expression, ‘The more things change, the more they stay the same?’ Philosophical, isn’t it?Well, the universe is in a a state of constant motion- always changing, always evolving. However, at the same time, the only thing that remains constant in everything is you and you having the ability to grow. All it means is- there’s always a reason for everything that happens. Your experiences are pre-written and designed to shape you, define you and hopefully , grow you into the mightiest you possible.

Destiny hides the worst and the best moments of our lives. We don’t know what is going to happen in the very next moment. Its good to plan your life, to fall prey to your dreams but the ones who actually live and accept what life hands in the present are the real heroes. The ones who actually enjoy and feel the pleasure and appreciate every moment add meaning to their lives.

The past is what we cannot change as it has already happened. The future is always a mystery. No matter how much we try, we are going to lose certain things and certain people in life. So, lets just enjoy where we are now and love whom we want to love.

Fact: bad things and bad people happen to everyone on this planet.

Fact: you cannot control much of what happens in life. Life is a lively fusion of free merged with destiny.


When you are tempted to shut down, think of the horror movie with unconscious , soulless zombies- all miserably going and taking bites out of all the happy, alive, soulful people. One bite- and the conscious, soulful people become unconscious, soulless zombies too! Think about them and make a choice not to become a soulless zombie only because you have been bitten by one..!



  1. Very true, everything happens for a reason… u either take it as bitter or u become better..i personally feel never say to life why me…instead say try me….thanks to God for giving me millions of REASON’S to laugh,live,love…never find answer’s of ur all WHY just go with the flow..

  2. Manish Chhetia Reply

    Aptly written Simran !! Though I believe in the same but would like to differ a bit in a sense that some people do take destiny as an excuse of not making any efforts to acheive something. They believe ki jo hona hai woh toh hoga hi based on their past failures/experiences then they feel there is no need to make any efforts. I really do not buy this, this could only be a loser’s ethics.
    Moreover, loved the way you have crafted your experiences.keep it up girl, way to go 🙂

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