Where do I even start?
I hope everyone reading this has personally experienced it or at least have seen the pressure of getting married in friends and/or family, mostly when they are not even ready. As you guessed it right, it’s pathetic.
Especially in Asian countries like India, Pakistan, China, etc. this has become something which is of very high importance in one’s life as soon as they cross a certain age, more or less, in the early twenties.
There could be a hundred reasons why this is happening with us and not the rest of the world, few of major reasons I think of are our mythology which focuses on the importance of having your next generation without which you are deemed as a weak, culture which teaches you to follow whatever your elders say and never question them back, and maybe a lot of more things. But I have a different thought on this topic and it might look this is not possible with everyone, but well, at least we can try to think that way!
I think marriage is not something we should do just because we have crossed a certain age, or just because our parents, society wants us to do. Marriage is not something we should do just because we think, it is something which can accept us in society, or just because you want the next generation in the family.
I think marriage is something which should be the last compromise anyone could think of, not the first. Because if your marriage is compromised based on the pressure of acceptance, your most part of life is based on your first compromise. You do everything ever after because you are now wired to follow compromise. To give you a sense of what I mean, please read the below quote carefully:
Now, this begs the question, then what should be defined as Marriage?
I guess Marriage is something which is equivalent to bliss, the joy of getting connected to someone you think you could spend your whole life with (Even if it turns out to be opposite later).
I think if there is no love, no excitement to stay together forever, magical hope to have a great time ahead, marriage just becomes a part of your life, which you have to do, with or without excitement, which defeats the purpose of it.
I think most of us already compromise a lot by being Engineers, Doctors, Lawyers when we could be painters, artists, singers just because we never had a say in it. I think we already give up a lot of dreams because of our parents, emotional pressures, financial conditions, and whatnot.
Apart from giving up so much already, if you give your remaining part of life to live with someone you don’t really love is similarly like becoming a zombie, where you surely can walk like a normal person, but you cannot feel the softness of sand underneath you.
Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. Would love to get your feedback.